Let me preface this by saying that I really hope the following doesn't insult anyone. I know people share their stories [for the most part] to try and be helpful, not to cause harm...
Pregnancy is an interesting thing. It's obviously a product of the most intimate part of your life, but all of a sudden the mom's body and life become a very very public topic! Especially since I'm sharing my pregnancy on my blog, for anyone to see. The strange thing is how free strangers feel to share advice, horror stories, or condescending looks.
I don't want to go into details here, because that would be imposing my experience onto other ladies, but just remember that the vast majority of moms care very very deeply about their babies and would do nothing to harm them. If you see a pregnant lady drinking coffee, eating soft cheeses, enjoy a small glass of red wine late in pregnancy, etc...keep your thoughts to yourself. Chances are, this mom (like most!) is hyper aware of everything she is putting into her body, shares with and listens to her care provider, and is growing a very healthy little baby. Just because she's doing something different from what you would do/have done, it doesn't mean it's wrong. Keep in mind that there is literally an ENTIRE WORLD that births. Every culture has different ways of dealing with pregnancy and each of these cultures have healthy babies. Every single woman is different, and every pregnancy itself is a unique experience.
I've had two types of experiences with strangers (women) about the size of my body. One was trying to compliment me (I think...?) on how I looked, but was very upset that I was "smaller" than she was when she was 5.5 months pregnant. Another random lady made it very clear that I was "much much bigger" than she was at my stage, with a very smug look on her face. Guess what, ladies? I don't care! I really really don't. Baby and I are healthy, my midwife is happy with the weight I've gained, and it's not contest on who has the better figure! Also, if you don't have something encouraging to say, keep your mouth shut. Sorry if that sounds rude, but no expecting mom needs to hear the horrifying stories of the worst births you've heard of. Sure, births where everything went smoothly don't make for a good story, but detailed accounts of blood and gore are not nice.
Ok, sorry about my rant, I hope it doesn't sound rude or stand-off ish. It's just a very hurtful thing for a mother to hear it implied from someone that she's somehow putting her baby's life in danger, even when she is taking great care of him! I really enjoy talking to people about my baby, I don't mind in the slightest bit when friends comment on or touch my belly. I appreciate advice from other moms when we are discussing babies. I am truly enjoying my pregnancy, the good and the bad, and am trying to not let things get to me. Little JR Jr. is the best thing that could happen in our lives, and we are so full of love for him!!
On a lighter note: how funny is my shadow?! It makes me laugh for sure.
Dear JR Jr.,
Are you training for a triathlon in there? Your punches and kicks are growing stronger by the day, and sometimes I can feel you swimming across my belly like a little fishy!
We went to see your grandma (or "abuela", since you better start learning Spanish!) this week. She loves you so much, and bought you a few little adorable onesies. You were being pretty shy, and didn't really want to kick for her, though. I can't wait for you to meet all of your grandparents, aunts and uncles, and cousins!
This week, I found some great vintage baby blankets for you. Daddy said I was like a momma bird, collecting little twigs for your nest. It's kind of true. I also found some cute fabric to sew you little burp cloths for when you puke all over us. I hope you like old things, because everything we have for you is from estate sales! :)
Love you, little guy.